There are many ways in which we can connect with one another. Words, touch, laughter are some of connection’s outward expressions. Empathy and resonance are a couple of the qualities that describe our capacity to feel & attune to each other. What is the difference really? (…)

In so many ways we try to balance, compensate & correct the distress we carry through our children. When we expect them to behave in a certain way so we don’t have to get in touch with our fear of being judged or excluded; when we expect them to follow our direction without resistance so we can feel competent and don’t have to encounter the anger that we carry for our own will having been broken when we were children. (…)

If people ask how I started to get into trauma work, I say that it started with my daughter - from scratch if you will. I was a few months pregnant when I was caught by a book on traumatized societies by Franz Ruppert. It was more macro-level which has always fascinated me but it quickly turned me into as micro as it can get: a deep glimpse into my own earliest experiences in my mother‘s womb, my birth, my first few years. This is were the foundation for our psychological wellbeing is set - and eventually that of our whole society & the systems we operate in. (…)

Meditation is an incredible, deeply intuitive, wise, and humane tool to get in touch with yourself. To see who you are apart from the relationships you lead, the roles you fulfill, the job you do, the needs you satisfy. In fact, it helps you to get a better sense of whether all of the above are inherently good for you or not. And then meditation has limitations that I consider important to be aware of. (…)

If you’d asked me years ago what could be the result of healing (becoming whole again), I’d probably have answered that I’d hoped to feel more fulfilled, fuller of purpose, more grounded & embodied. I wouldn’t have answered that I might feel more spacious, less limited in time & space, lighter, connected & yet freer, that precious balance between being safely bonded & autonomous at the same time. (…)

This has been a longing for me for quite sometime: to put on the brakes and venture into the solitude, the deep sense of connection with myself that my soul or my being was calling for. And yet, some of my prevalent strategies have kept me moving, not trusting too much in my own senses, rather ridiculing them as asking for “laziness”, “lethargy”, “staying stuck”. (…)