In so many ways we try to balance, compensate & correct the distress we carry through our children. When we expect them to behave in a certain way so we don’t have to get in touch with our fear of being judged or excluded; when we expect them to follow our direction without resistance so we can feel competent and don’t have to encounter the anger that we carry for our own will having been broken when we were children. (…)

If people ask how I started to get into trauma work, I say that it started with my daughter - from scratch if you will. I was a few months pregnant when I was caught by a book on traumatized societies by Franz Ruppert. It was more macro-level which has always fascinated me but it quickly turned me into as micro as it can get: a deep glimpse into my own earliest experiences in my mother‘s womb, my birth, my first few years. This is were the foundation for our psychological wellbeing is set - and eventually that of our whole society & the systems we operate in. (…)