There is barely anything more freeing & empowering to saying & affirming No when we mean it. Our conscious Yes and No affirms our sense of Self and is in full alignment with how we feel and what we need, the essential ingredients of our being. But why is it so difficult for many of us to be clear and firm about our boundaries, our own capacity, our own will? (…)

There are many ways in which we can connect with one another. Words, touch, laughter are some of connection’s outward expressions. Empathy and resonance are a couple of the qualities that describe our capacity to feel & attune to each other. What is the difference really? (…)

In so many ways we try to balance, compensate & correct the distress we carry through our children. When we expect them to behave in a certain way so we don’t have to get in touch with our fear of being judged or excluded; when we expect them to follow our direction without resistance so we can feel competent and don’t have to encounter the anger that we carry for our own will having been broken when we were children. (…)

If people ask how I started to get into trauma work, I say that it started with my daughter - from scratch if you will. I was a few months pregnant when I was caught by a book on traumatized societies by Franz Ruppert. It was more macro-level which has always fascinated me but it quickly turned me into as micro as it can get: a deep glimpse into my own earliest experiences in my mother‘s womb, my birth, my first few years. This is were the foundation for our psychological wellbeing is set - and eventually that of our whole society & the systems we operate in. (…)

If you’d asked me years ago what could be the result of healing (becoming whole again), I’d probably have answered that I’d hoped to feel more fulfilled, fuller of purpose, more grounded & embodied. I wouldn’t have answered that I might feel more spacious, less limited in time & space, lighter, connected & yet freer, that precious balance between being safely bonded & autonomous at the same time. (…)