Love is in the Air

Maybe it sounds a bit counter-intuitive to presume the love around us when the more dominant notion is that of fear and separation - but: it’s Christmas and, probably more importantly, when we’re simply present for the struggles, blame, and ensuing separation inside and outside of us, there naturally is an underlying current of unity, patience, embrace, and love.

It is difficult to access these inherent qualities and to let them come to the forefront when we’re thinking and acting out of habit and the need to protect ourselves from what comes our way.

I get this, I’m in no way different, especially when facing my family of origin.

Love doesn’t exclude and it doesn’t judge; particularly not what is going on inside ourselves.

There is an inherent wisdom in and a need for some of our mechanisms and habitual patterns, which are different for everyone and can come in the form of withdrawal, blame, anger etc. However, as adults we might realize that they’re not serving our relationships, connection and wellbeing anymore.

Then it’s time to activate the qualities of care, patience, and love inside of us - for ourselves first and foremost; gently acknowledging the parts of ourselves that are still wound up in stories of abandonment, lack of care & consideration, and exclusion, and whatever other painful experiences we might have had with those we love the most.

All our parts - in the form of i.e. strong emotions or response mechanisms - want is for us to acknowledge them so they’re finally able to integrate and calm down.

And this is how we slowly become whole (again), retuning to the essence of love, where likewise wholeness is love.

I wish you All the time & space these days to sense yourself, connect with your emotions, be easy on your “unskillful” reactions - and therewith gently, yet inevitably overcome fear and separation. ❤️